Emotional Intelligence Strategy: The 3 Rs

Emotional Intelligence Strategy: The 3 Rs

Emotional Intelligence Strategy: The 3 Rs

Do you ever wonder, like I used to, how you’re going to teach your daughter to process her emotions in healthy ways?

Moms, we want to help our girls manage themselves and their relationships, but sometimes we don’t even do that very well.

Shout out right now to one of the most important parenting books written in our lifetime. Last year my friend Sissy Goff (RaisingBoysAndGirls.com), along with her colleagues David Thomas and Melissa Trevathan, co-wrote Are My Kids On Track: 12 Social, Emotional, and Spiritual Milestones Your Child Needs To Reach.

In preparation for the book’s launch, we got a sweet package in the mail with a copy of the book, along with some fun little extras. Included was a laminated Emotional Vocabulary Chart. Win! It had 12 or so faces on it with emotions adjectives to describe each face.

I used the chart to introduce Rooney to these types of words. The first day, we just sat face-to-face, practiced making each face back and forth and then saying the adjective word out loud. After each one, we would talk through a real-life example.

Then I set out to encourage her to describe different emotions as she would feel them. It took a few days and then she was ready for more.

Once she had these words in her language toolkit,  I came up with a simple, 3 step strategy to encourage her to process her feelings in real time through my guided reflection. This strategy was a gamechanger for me, and I'm excited to share it with you! 

Emotional Intelligence Strategy: The 3 Rs 

  1. Recognize – Teach her the emotional vocabulary words to call out what she is feeling. Is it embarrassment, impatience, frustration? She’s got to name it before she can tame it.
  1. Regulate – Help her notice any physical changes inside her body. Is her heart beating faster? Do her muscles feel tight? Show her a calming strategy like focused breathing to help her reset before she says something in anger.  
  1. Respond – “A loose tongue spreads destruction” (Prov. 11:9). The wise measure their words, so show your girl how to tip the scales in her favor.

Have an awesome day!

If this post struck a chord with you, I want you to know I'm working on a solution to help you grow deeper in your relationship with your daughter and equip her with the tools and skills she needs to manage herself and her relationships well. If you're looking for mentorship that includes practical tools and strategies, you’ll want to check out my FREE video series, 3 Keys To Unlocking Her True Potential. These topics changed my approach to motherhood, marriage, business, and life forever...


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